S5-EP3: Joan Price on the Joys of (and Differences in) Senior Sex
Debbie talks to sexpert Joan Price, 79, who is known as a leader of the sex revolution for seniors.
Today Debbie talks about a topic that interests us all no matter our age.
Given the focus of the podcast, she decided to go right to a senior sexpert, Joan Price, for a very frank conversation about all things related to, er, senior sex.
NOTE: this is one of the most listened-to episodes of the podcast. The conversation is explicit but also tasteful and respectful.
Joan, who is 79, has legions of followers on her blog, for her books, DVDs and webinars. She was quoted in a New York Times Magazine cover story this year and now gets so many requests for podcast interviews that she mostly turns them down.
She agreed to come on [B]OLDER after listening to the recent episode with nonagenarian author Hilma Wolitzer (Season 4, Episode 20) about writing through grief. Joan’s most recent book is titled Sex After Grief.
Joan calls herself an “advocate for ageless sexuality.” The media calls her “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors” and, her favorite, “a wrinkly sex kitten.”
Debbie and Joan talk about why senior sex is an embarrassing subject but, more importantly, they talk about how to expand our definition of sex and how to adjust our relationship to body image as we age.
They get right into it. No words are off limits so they talk about orgasms and sex toys and more. Joan explains the different types of desire – spontaneous vs. responsive – and why that’s important to understand as you get older.
After this episode we promise that you’ll know what PIV stands for… if you don’t already.
Bottom line, Joan’s message is that yes, sex is different after 50 or 60 or 70 or 80… but in some ways, she says, it’s better. Joan is funny as well as frank. “Spicy” is one of her favorite words. You’ll definitely want to check out her website joanprice.com for tons of resources.
Mentioned in this episode or useful:
- Naked at Our Age:Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price (Seal Press, 2011)
- Sex After Grief by Joan Price (Mango Publishing, 2019)
- S4-EP20: Hilma Wolitzer, 92, on Writing Through Grief and Turning Domestic Life Into Art
- Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D (Revised and Updated Version – Simon & Schuster, 2021)
- The Joys (and Challenges) of Sex After 70 by Maggie Jones (New York Times Magazine cover story, Jan. 12, 2022)
- Good Luck to You, Leo Grande (on Hulu, starring Emma Thompson)
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Thanks to our media partners
Encore.org, our newest media partner, is an ideas and innovation hub tapping the talent of those 50+ as a force for good. Founder and CEO Marc Freedman is an award-winning social entrepreneur and author, most recently, of How to Live Forever: The Enduring Power of Connecting the Generations. Looking for a great gap-year transition program? Check out Encore Fellowships, which match skilled, seasoned professionals with social-sector organizations in high-impact, paid assignments.
Modern Elder Academy is a program dedicated to navigating mid-life transitions. MEA, based in Baja California, Mexico, provides the place and the tools to start reframing your lifetime of experience. Grow whole, not old. Founder Chip Conley is a New York Times bestselling author, award-winning hospitality entrepreneur and a rock star of the mid-life transition movement. His newest book is Wisdom @ Work: the Making of a Modern Elder.
Next For Me is an important new resource for the 50+ crowd focused on rewriting life. Taking a gap year or timeout may be the best way to figure out "what's next" when you're in this stage of life. Founder Jeff Tidwell explains, Next For Me "connects and inspires our generation to evolve our post-50 lives through new work, a new purpose, or a new social contribution."